By Gena Barnhill @BarnhillGena
God created us to be in a relationship with Him and with each other. He ordained marriage as a covenant relationship between a man and a woman. We read in Genesis 2:24 that a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Jesus repeats this in Matthew 19:5–6 and adds that what God has joined together, let not man separate. Marriage is more than a physical union. The couple is joined together physically, spiritually, and emotionally in holy matrimony. God created physical intimacy to be a bonding encounter.How Does Ungodly Sexual Activity Affect Us Spiritually #Spiritualwarfare #healing #prayer Click To Tweet
Our enemy, the devil, comes to steal, kill, and destroy. His goal is to separate us from God. He attacks us through temptation, accusation, or deception. Sexual intimacy outside of marriage is one area he uses to tempt us. When we fall prey to his temptation, he hurls accusations against us causing shame and fear. From our experience in prayer ministry, all families have had a form of ungodly sexual activity in their bloodline.
If the enemy has deceived us, we may mistakenly believe we were only physically involved with another person, and the connection with the other person can easily be broken. But when we intimately join with another person, we are also joined spiritually and emotionally. This forms a bond, also referred to as a soul tie. If we are connected to a person who does not have the same deep level of commitment and intimacy, we can become deeply wounded and find ourselves in an unhealthy or ungodly soul tie.
Other forms of ungodly sexual activity that can create unhealthy soul ties include pornography, sexual perversions, sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, sexual harassment, and any sexual union outside the covenant of marriage.
We prayed with hundreds of people who had experienced deep wounds from ungodly sexual activity. Some found themselves longing for the person they were intimate with even though they no longer liked the person. Several individuals told us that they were drawn to unhealthy, manipulative relationships, and they did not understand why. The Lord revealed this was a pattern in their family lineage that needed to be broken.
They received freedom after:
The Bible presents many cautions against sexual immorality. God’s laws, including the Ten Commandments, were meant to protect us from harm. Banks and Banks suggest the following consequences of ungodly soul ties:
First Thessalonians 4:3–5 says: For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God.
First Corinthians 6:18–19 says: Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own.
The good news is unhealthy soul ties can be broken and ungodly sexual activity can be forgiven. If we have sinned, Jesus promises to forgive us of our sins when we repent. If we were violated or sinned against, we can ask the Lord to help us forgive our offender and ask Jesus to cleanse us. He can restore the purity and innocence stolen from us.
Once we recognize an unhealthy soul tie exists, we can pray the following prayer to break this spiritual connection:
Unhealthy Soul Tie Prayer
1Side effects of unhealthy soul ties are paraphrased from Bill Banks and Sue Banks, Breaking Unhealthy Soul-Ties (Kirkwood, MO: Impact Christian Books, 2011), 113-115.
2Gena Barnhill and Press Barnhill, Simple Effective Prayer: A Model for Inner Healing (Birmingham, AL: Brookstone Publishing Group, 2022), 30-31.
What negative consequences have you observed from ungodly sexual activity?
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